Friends
Before we can get together, socialize or entertain we have to have Friends. Do you have friends? or at least acquaintances? Let’s start with a simple old Webster’s definition.
FRIEND – A person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
A person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile.
Well that seems fairly straightforward. So you should start by taking a mental inventory of people you consider your friends and ask yourself – do you have any feelings of affection? Not necessarily love, just affection, personal regard. Do you care about their life, about what happens to them? Are you on good terms with them? Not hostile.
Now remember these are questions for you – Are YOU, all these things. You have to be a friend to have a friend.
Now secondarily, we are trying to have a social event so lets go with the lesser – Aquaintances.
Acquaintance – A person Known to one, but usually not a close friend.
Now we socialize with acquaintances all the time. Most of the people that we work with, meet at parties, bars, events are acquaintances. So we can have a great party with people we barely know. If we’re lucky enough, from these events, we may emerge a friend or two.
Obviously really good friends and BFF’s, go alot deeper. But it’s January and we have all year to blog about this. So let’s just start here. Click back a day and answer the poll. Look for days when there will be simple quotes designed to make you think of a friend or work on a friendship.
Quote of the Day
“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one”
~ C.S. Lewis quote
Welcome 2011 and my New Blog
Happy New Year and Welcome to 2011. The Holidays are over, hopefully we’ve had a good time – eaten well, spent time with family and friends, enjoyed a party or two. Now what?.?.?.? When will we have this much fun again??
Some people make resolutions, I tend to make goals or quests. Last year’s was Europe, and that journey started January 1, 2010 (See “All Roads . . . on the Blogroll to the right if you missed it!). The goal was accomplished, but the blog took on a life of it’s own through the year. I expect LOST (as I’m already affectionately calling it for short), will do the same. But so that we will have something to compare it with next December, I have to try and define it now. So here goes!
The LOST art of Socializing – came from my joy of entertaining and many conversations I’ve had with my friend J on this subject. In our discussions we asked questions and sometimes provide answers to things such as:
“Why don’t people entertain any more?” – “It Cost too Much”
“Why is the same crappy food served at every event?” – People don’t really cook anymore – or don’t really know how to cook.
Does NO one respect social etiquette anymore? No RSVP’s, No thank you’s, never on time, proper Dress Code – “What is Black Tie”?.
Finally – Friendships/Relationships. Do people know how to be a friend? The differences between women’s friendships and men’s friendships.
Finally – Me – There will be a lot of me wrapped into this blog. My love of Friends, Books, Movies, Entertaining, and People.
I want lots of feed back from the public. I need real answers to these question. So, there will be Polls, Surveys and questionnaires. Please comment and give me ideas for more questions, recipes, pictures etc. I plan to host 1 event per month – to socialize with my friends. Check often to know when they are, to get an invited or just critique an event. Let’s have some fun, get to know each other better, or just stay in touch.
Here’s the first poll – waiting for your answers. Look for me on FB. or log in at work at https://semplo2lost.wordpress.com as well.
the LOST Art of Socializing! 